10 How To Tips For Weight Loss

Have you have been trying to lose weight for sometime, but you feel like you are getting no where? You are becoming frustrated and you feel that you are out of options and nowhere else to turn. Well there are ten tips that you may not have tried that you probably will need to be aware of. These ten tips will actually help you succeed in your weight loss program.



1. Water



* You need to begin your weight loss program by drinking plenty of water. When you are dieting this usually consists of eight to ten glasses a day. This water will help you keep hydrated, detoxified, and will help you keep those nasty hunger pangs at bay.



2. 3 large and 2 small



* You should have at least five if not six meals a day. This should consist of three large meals for breakfast, lunch, and dinner and at least two small calorie snacks usually mid morning and early evening. This will be great for your metabolism. Also by no means are you to skip meals. If you skip meals then you will cause your metabolism to become off balance.



3. Workouts



* Regular exercise is great when you are trying to lose weight. It will help in increasing your metabolism and also increase your overall fitness levels. Try things such as a brisk walk, jogging, and bike riding among others, as these are all good for your heart. You can also try weight training as it will help you build up your muscle and also build up your endurance.



4. Mental



* Mental workouts are also important to your weight loss program. Things like Yoga and Meditation will help lower your stress, allow you to experience mental relaxation and improves your concentration. Both the mental and physical exercise if combined correctly will help with your personality and overall physical health.



5. Eat



* It will be much healthier for you, as a whole, to eat rather than drink. A lot of people believe in an all liquid diet but you need to realize these are not good. All you are basically taking in is pure sugar.



6. Food Labels



* You need to pay close attention to all food labels, especially when you are trying to lose weight. In doing so you need to compare calorie intake and overall healthiness of the food.



7. Portion Size



* You need to pay attention to your portion sizes. It is one of the most useful steps to proper weight loss.



8. Low Fat Low Sugar



* You need to be sure to choose foods that are low both in fat and sugar.



9. Sleep



* A good night sleep is also essential to proper weight loss. You also need to make sure you are going to bed and getting up at the same time every day



10. Daily Diary/Journal



* You need to do a daily diary/journal on all the food that you take in and carry it with you at all times. This will help you keep track of the calories that you have already consumed for the day which allows you to plan your next meal more effectively.



As you can see there is still hope for your weight loss plan. You just need to follow these 10 steps and you will be losing weight in no time.

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Stop Your Divorce Simple Steps To Stop A Divoce And Save Your Marriage

If you're at the point in your marriage where you're looking for help to stop your divorce, then you've reached a very sad point in your life. The good news though is that as long as you have the desire to save your marriage, then it can be done.



However, what you must be aware of is that for many in your situation, it is not necessarily going to be a straightforward thing to achieve. When you set out to stop your divorce you have to convince your spouse that whatever the problems within your marriage, they can be solved.



Now, if you haven't already done so, you need to sit down with your spouse and tell them exactly how you feel. I mean are you sure your spouse knows you want to save your marriage? Take nothing for granted, if you haven't told your spouse, they might not know.



If you've made mistakes that you deeply regret, the first thing you have to do is put your cards on the table regarding those mistakes. Perhaps you cheated on your spouse? Or you just never had any time for your spouse? Whatever the mistakes, you now have to convince your spouse that you understand why it was such a terrible mistake and you now have clear and viable plans about how you, as an individual, and then the two of you, also as a couple, can get past this.



To stop your divorce you might have to seek outside help. If you and your spouse can sit down together and talk things through to a point where you can reconcile, then great. But if you feel the only positive way forward is to seek professional outside help, then you, as the person who wants to save the marriage, must seek out that help. Once you have the details present them to your spouse and this will act as concrete proof that you are serious, focused and committed to saving your marriage.



There is a chance that your spouse will not be interested in anything you have to say regarding saving the marriage. If this happens try not to react in a negative way. Only you and your spouse know the personal situation of your marriage, but be honest with yourself. Has there been chance, after chance given to you to stop your divorce and those chances have not been? Does your spouse feel as though things will never improve? If that is the case, then your best bet is to let the marriage go for now and give your spouse time.



Hold on to the hope that in the future, time will have healed whatever problems there are in your marriage and then you'll be able to use different strategies to rekindle your marriage.

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Simple Tips To Help You Save Your Relationship After Infidelity

If you are trying to save your relationship after infidelity and wondering where to turn, then the good news, amongst the doom and gloom you're currently feeling, is that there is hope.



What you have to do first of all is make sure that you are serious about wanting to save your relationship. There is very little point in trying to save the relationship if you are not fully committed to what you are about to undertake.



Now, after infidelity a relationship is in a very fragile state. Trust has been broken and betrayal is often all that the wounded spouse can think about. If you are the spouse who has strayed and betrayed your spouse, then get ready to do some serious making up.



Obviously you will have to start by ending your affair. Once you have ended the affair and broken off all contact with your lover, then you have to convince your spouse that you have done this and done this once and for all. There really is no point attempting this reconciliation if you are still seeing your lover or still in contact with them.



Take some time thinking about what caused you to have the affair in the first place. Very rarely is it about wanting to sleep with someone else. Usually it's about an emotional need that was not being met in the relationship. Figure out what you were missing and sit down with your spouse and explain it to them.



Whatever you do don't make your spouse think or feel that whatever you were missing was because they weren't providing it. You have to take full responsibility for your mistakes and you have to do so in a constructive way.



After infidelity, you are going to have to work at getting back your spouse's trust. Now this will not happen over night, so don't get frustrated and angry if you feel you're being made to jump through hoops to win back your spouse's trust. When you first met and dated your spouse, trust didn't just appear on the first date, the first week or month. No, it took time to time to build and grow and now that you have severely damaged that trust, it will once again take time to return. So you're going to have to be very patient.



Make sure that after the infidelity, if the two of you feel that you need to seek outside expert help that you do so. There is no point in you both wanting to save the relationship, but neither of you have any clue about how to go about this and then not seeking help. You will do yourselves a great disservice if you decide to soldier on without help.



Relationships can be saved after infidelity has happened. The key though, is that one or both of you truly want to save the relationship.

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Separation Relationships Do They Work Or Is It Just Putting Off The Inevitable Are

Once you get to the stage where divorce is on the cards, you might want to consider trying a separation. Relationships that try separation before they opt for a more permanent choice of divorce or permanent breakup, often succeed in repairing themselves in the long run.



This is because with separation relationships, the couple involved give themselves the benefit of a timeout and they effectively take the heat out of a tense situation. What this means is that in the heat of a pending breakup there is a chance for both parties to leave the scene, calm down and weigh up exactly what they want.



Without this separation there is every chance that the relationship would end straightaway. With separation, relationships there is every chance of saving their relationship because there are limited chances of making rash decisions that may very quickly be regretted.



However, the key to success, when considering a separation, is to set some ground rules. Make sure you sit down with your partner and iron out some detailed plans and goals. Without these plans and goals you run the risk of getting nowhere.



Some issues that are worth thinking about involve finances, arrangements regarding any children that there may be, plans about whether the two of you will see each other and if so under what circumstances, and also what kind of help the two of you might consider seeking, in regards to saving your relationship.



What is also worth agreeing to, before a separation, is whether the two of you will date other people. This is important because one of you might think that it is implicit that this will not happen, while the other might think of themselves as a free agent and free to do whatever they want with whomever they want. Whether you believe your spouse will date other people or not, this detail should be expressly ironed out before a separation is agreed.



Above all for separation relationships to work the two of you should agree how long this state will continue. It is pointless leaving the separation open ended because you could find that your relationship has drifted and the two of you have no idea how to get back on track. Agree a time frame, a few weeks, a few months, whatever you're comfortable with. Also factor in the possibility of extending the time frame. That way if you both feel you need more time or less time, then that can be easily factored in.



Without a doubt separation relationships have been used successfully to save relationships.

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Relationship Sites Use Your Head And Heart

I believe that in some ways the internet has created problems for us as a society. Why? Because there is too much information and we don't know where to start? No. I believe it's a problem because we tend to rely too heavily on the information we get online. We stop using our own heads and hearts. Using online relationship sites to get advice about your relationship isn't a bad thing...as long as you never stop using your own head.



Everyone has an opinion. Some of them make sense, though you may not agree with them, and some just sound completely stupid. Sometimes I worry that with so many opinions floating around we forget to consider our own opinion. So before you start using online sties, this is my word of caution to you: not everyone who claims to be an 'expert' really is.



Not every 'expert' can possibly know everything about their chosen subject. The important thing for you to remember is to get various opinions, but at the end of the day stop, take some time and listen to what your head and heart are telling you. If you listen to yourself, honestly, you will hardly ever make a mistake.



There are many sites online that will have advice on relationships or even give you the opportunity to meet the person of your dreams.



If you want to find some help on your relationship issues you may want to do a search for forums on relationships. Find some and take a little time to 'lurk' in the forum without leaving a comment. Just get a feel for the type of people and topics discussed at the forum. If you like what you see you may want to start interacting by posing your question.



A lot of people will actually find it easier to open up online because of the anonymity they have. No one knows who you so it can sometimes be easier to open up about certain subjects. If that's the case for you than by all means, use a forum to provide you with the help you need. Just remember what I said above about using your own common sense.



Online chat rooms can be another resource that may be able to help you out. Here you will have real time conversations with other members. Just like with the forums you can still be completely anonymous if you choose. You can even make 'friends' in a chat room.



Of course, you do have to be careful since you don't really know who you're talking to. That middle aged woman from Tennessee could actually be a middle aged man from Chicago. Just make sure you don't give out any details that someone could use to locate you in real life.



But if you feel like the information and advice they are giving you makes sense, than by all means use it. One of the great things about these types of sites is that everyone has their own experiences to share. The odds of you finding someone who is in the same situation as you, or better yet, has overcome the same situation that you are currently in and can provide some real answers, is much better when you have dozens or even hundreds of people right there in the chat room.



There are all kinds of relationship sites online and they may be able to help you with whatever you're dealing with. Just remember to always use your own head, heart, and opinion first and you'll be fine.

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Relationship Fun Keeps A Relationship Alive

We all know how to have fun, at least we used to. For many adults we seem to have lost the ability to just let go and have some fun, along with some great, big belly laughs. Unfortunately that lack of fun can have serious negative effects on us, our health, and our relationships. Put some relationship fun back in your life. You might save your relationship...and your mind!



Having fun with your partner can be virtually anything that the two of you enjoy together. And if it makes you laugh out loud, that's even better. You can go to an amusement park, check out the latest comedy at the local movie theater, stay home and play a energetic video game, whatever. One word of caution though when playing games together: don't let your competitiveness become a problem This isn't a competition between you and your partner, it's a chance for the two of you to share an easy going, fun, time together.



If you are the type of person that is overly competitive (which is almost always a sign of being very insecure and you may want to get some counseling to help you feel better about yourself so you don't always have to 'win') then you'd be better off sticking to non- competitive fun things with your partner, forget the games for now.



When you really let go and act like a twit that can be a scary thing. You might be afraid your partner will think you're weird and make fun of you. When you can share these times with your partner and you are both acting silly together, that actually builds trust between the two of you. That is just another bond between the two of you and your relationship is one step stronger.



When you first started dating your partner, and falling in love, the two of you probably laughed and acted silly all the time. But as we grow into our relationship, especially when we start living together and start sharing the responsibilities of a household, we seem to have fun with our partners less and less.



One thing you can do to determine how much fun is in your relationship, is over the course of a week keep a journal. Mark down how many things you do with your partner that are pleasant such as watch a movie together, talk, go for a walk, play a game, and have sex, etc versus how many non-fun things you do together such as take out the trash, talk about your financial situations, talk about troubles at work, etc.



If this ratio of good times vs. bad times is like most relationships it's probably way out of balance. Most couples will have many more of the mundane daily interactions than they will of the fun loving, building a bond interactions. The first step to changing it is to recognize it.



You can strengthen your bond with your partner by putting some relationship fun back into your everyday lives. It's not a hard thing to do and you'll both feel better about yourselves, about each other, and about your relationship...what could be better?

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Relationship Couples

I'm not that old, so I don't know for sure, but it seems like these days we make everything so much more complicated than it needs to be. That is especially true when it comes to relationship couples seem to find it so hard to figure out the problem and many times the problem is a small and simple thing.



One analogy I often use is that of a stone wall. Think of your relationship. Every time you do or say something that hurts or annoys your partner, it's like adding another stone to the wall. A couple stones here and a few stones there don't matter all that much, you can still easily step over the wall to be close to your partner.



And, if you apologize, and make permanent changes, to the behaviors that caused your partner pain or annoyance, you can even remove a stone sometimes.



But if you do like most couples do, and you continue to add stones after stones after stones, and you don't remove any, you will find it virtually impossible to connect with your partner. By that point it will be very difficult and maybe even impossible to tear down the wall and have a meaningful relationship with your partner.



The trick is to make sure your wall never gets too high. How? Easy, talk. Just talk, don't yell, don't shout, don't accuse...talk.



It's very important each person in the relationship remembers that the other person has feelings too. When you are hurt and upset it's very easy to make everything all about 'you'. That won't work.



If you take the time to realize that your partner has their point of view and remember, this has absolutely nothing to do with right and wrong, it's simply about recognizing that each person has their own view of what has happened and you need to let them express that view without getting defensive or upset, you might actually find that you are on the same page...just a different sentence!



I've had that very same experience. My spouse and I had very heated discussions but once we calmed down and actually talked, and listened, we realized though we were saying it in different ways we were both saying basically the same thing!



Once you come to that place it will help you take a stone out of your wall and it can also help you in the future if you can remember that you and your partner probably aren't all that far off from each other, you're just expressing yourselves differently.



For the most part no matter what your age, gender, religious, or sexual preferences, everyone wants to feel love, respected, appreciated, and understood. You want that and so does your partner, when it comes to relationship couples will be much better off if they never lose sight of that. If you try to deal with your partner with those things in mind, and they do the same for you, your relationship will be much smoother, and there will be a lot fewer stones in your wall.

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Relationship Break Up Advice How To Save Your Relationship Or Move On

Are you looking for relationship breakup advice? Then you're probably feeling as though this is one of the lowest points in your life. Now that may very well be true, but however badly you're feeling right now, this feeling will pass! You will get through this!



What you do now, depends on the outcome you're looking for. If you're ready for the relationship to be over and have no interest in trying to save the relationship, then then you will go one way. If on the other hand you're looking for a way to save your relationship, then you will need a whole different set of tips and strategies to make this happen.



Relationship breakup advice for those who want to save their relationship is based on how you handle yourself in the run-up to the breakup and immediately after the breakup. If you are at the point in your relationship where your partner has just announced they want to end the relationship, then my advice to you is to agree to the breakup. Your biggest mistake would be to try and persuade your ex to stay in the relationship and not to leave you.



Agree to the breakup, let your ex go and wish them well. Your plan now is to get yourself together. Yes you're devastated that the one you love has walked out, but you have to find a way to deal with that devastation and to deal with it in a way that will help you rekindle your relationship in the future.



So spend some time coming to terms with what has happened in the relationship. You need to do this on your own, without your ex. Make no attempt to contact your ex, instead find your friends and your family and let them help you through this upsetting time.



What you can also do is to make peace with yourself. We all make mistakes and depending on the level of your mistake, it is forgivable! So don't spend the next few weeks beating yourself up. When it comes to contacting your ex in a few weeks, you need to be emotionally sound and appealing to pull off the reconciliation.



If you have no interest in rekindling the relationship, then the relationship breakup advice you're looking for is about finding strategies about how to cope with the trauma. You need to be able to move on with your life, so above all, give yourself time. Treat the ending of the relationship almost like a death.



It really doesn't matter whether you wanted the relationship to end or not. The point is it has ended and there was a time when you had real hopes for the relationship. Acknowledge that and acknowledge your disappointment that it has ended and you'll come through this in time.

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Relationship Breakups Before And After They Happen And How To Cope

When it comes to relationship breakups before and after, there are two questions that need answering. “Why?” and “What’s next?”



There is no doubt that dealing with relationship breakups before and after they happen, is a very traumatic and stressful time. It doesn't matter whether you were ready for the relationship to end or not, when it comes to a relationship ending there is still the same trauma, still the same upset.



Now, if your relationship hasn't actually ended yet, but it's on the verge of ending, then make sure you do your best to go through the coming days, weeks and months with as little drama as you can possibly manage. One of the classic mistakes that many people make, when faced with an imminent breakup, is to cause drama and upset. This is an understandable reaction, because they're upset and devastated at the ending of a relationship that they put so much hope into. However, control is key, especially if you have any hopes of rekindling your relationship in the future. Causing ructions and drama at the onset of the breakup will not help you further down the line.



So in regards to relationship breakups before and after, even if you're not ready for the relationship to end, agree to the breakup. Let your partner go and wish them well. Tell them that you're sorry for any mistakes you have made and that you wish you could've done things differently, but you accept their decision to end the relationship.



Something else that you should consider in answer to the “Why?” question is this: even if you have no interest in trying to rekindle the relationship, it might still be worthwhile exploring why the relationship ended. Answering this question is really a positive step forward for you and for any future relationship that you may enter.



Look closely at your behavior throughout the relationship. Try and pinpoint moments and incidences where you felt you could've handled the situation better. Be as honest with yourself as possible. If you and your ex have parted on fairly good terms then why not ask your ex how they felt you handled yourself in the relationship. Not only will this give you some great insight into how others/your ex sees you, but again, it's good food for thought for the future.



For some, when it comes to relationship breakups before and after, a wise move is to move on. Let's be honest, not all relationships are worth saving. For a variety of reasons, some relationships are just better over and done with. If you think your relationship falls into this category, then After the breakup give yourself as much time as you need to grieve the end of your relationship and then do just that, move on!

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Relationship A Woman And Advice Dont Ask Me Brother

Trying to have a successful relationship can be a challenge for anyone. There is no one size fits all relationship or relationship advice. There are, however, some relationship and woman advice that can help women find, and keep, that great relationship they've been looking for.



As odd as it might sound, if you want a good relationship the first person you have to worry about is you. Too many women are looking for the wrong thing and for the wrong reasons.



Everyone wants to feel liked, loved, desired, and respected. That's a wonderful thing to find. But too many women don't feel they have any worth unless they are in a romantic relationship, and that's where the trouble starts.



You see it goes a little like this: a lonely insecure woman who feels desperate for the love of a man will put off 'desperate vibes'. The only kind of man she is going to attract is an insecure man who needs to control the women in his life so he can feel important. The two will enter into a twisted co-dependent relationship that won't be truly be satisfying to either one.



That is why it is vital that any woman who is looking for a serious relationship take a long hard, and possibly painful, look at herself. It's not that she's not good enough, it's just that she doesn't think she's good enough. Until she realizes her own worth she will continue to attract the wrong type of men, be subject to some level of abuse whether verbal, emotional, or much worse, and will never really get the love she wants and deserves.



And the abuse in this type of situation is virtually guaranteed. You have to understand that a decent secure man will never be attracted to an insecure desperate woman. So that only leaves the kind of men that don't know any other way than to abuse women.



They may not physically abuse them, and it may not even be real overt, but the abuse will be there. He will onstantly be making snide and hurtful comments about her looks, her weight, her cooking, her housekeeping, or her lovemaking... and that is abuse.



Then after suffering from that abuse over a period of time women will only have lower self esteem and even if they break up with their partner the cycle will continue, only it will probably be worse since her self esteem is so much lower than before.



You can nip this problem in the bud. Just slow down, take some time to make sure you are the woman of your dreams. Make sure you are the type of woman you truly want to be, strong, confident, capable. If you need some help to get to that point don't hesitate to find a good therapist and enlist their help.



It might take time but it will be time well spent. If you truly want to have a lifetime of love and fulfillment you need to make sure you are the kind of woman who 'demands' it. Not by stomping your feet or becoming a shrew, but by being strong and capable and knowing that you deserve the very best. When you become that type of woman than you will attract the type of man that can truly make you happy.



Even though it might not be what some people want to hear, I hope that this relationship woman advice is taken to heart. I've seen the pattern above repeated with a dear friend of mine and she's in yet another lousy relationship with an insecure guy who makes himself feel like a big man by knocking her down. She, and you, can do much, much better.

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Relationship Article Pointers To Keep Love Burning

In this relationship article I'm going to give you some pointers, that if followed, could help you keep your relationship strong and loving. I will include a list of three things you can do that will make your partner feel loved and respected.



One word of caution though: while this list focuses on how you can treat your partner, it's also vitally important that your partner does the same things for you. I'm not encouraging a one sided relationship. Those never work, or at least they don't work from the standpoint that one partner isn't getting their needs met so the relationship isn't a healthy one.



In a strong healthy relationship both partners should be getting the majority of their needs met. They should feel love, respect, friendship, understanding, and desire coming from their partner. They should be giving those same things back too.



So before you plow into the list I want you to take some time to evaluate who you are as a person. Make sure that you are able to give and take equally. This is so important because in most relationships one person is the primary giver and one person is the primary taker. That is not good. Ideally both parties should be fairly close to a 50/50 split between what they give and what they take. That's what I want you to strive for.



Don't be the one who does all the giving, or most of it. And don't be the one who does all the taking, or most of it. Try to balance yourself and encourage your partner to do the same.



OK, now on to the list:



1. Ultimately we all want to feel like our partner actually likes us. So make sure you take time to have fun with your partner. Share your day with them. Tell them the good things, and the bad things. Have some laughs together.



2. Help build your partner up. You don't have to lie...if they ask you if they've gained weight, and they have, you don't have to say 'no' but you could say that they look good to you. (by the way, never ask a loaded, stupid, question like 'do I look fat in this"? No good can ever come of it!)



3. Too many relationships lose physical intimacy, and I don't just mean sex. When you and your partner were dating you most likely held hands, rubbed each other's hands or backs, basically you couldn't keep your hands off of each other. You just had to be close and touching as much as possible. Don't let that slip away. Never underestimate the power of a gentle touch and other physical contact.



And while sex is important, don't let all your physical contact become only sexual in nature. You should always enjoy touching your partners cheek or sneaking up behind them and putting your arms around them for a hug.



I know that if you use some of the ideas I've given you in this relationship article that you can be one step closer to maintaining a strong loving relationship with your partner. Just try to maintain some of the wonder, and love you had for your partner when you first met. By doing that you have a much better chance of keeping your relationship strong and happy for your whole life.

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Relationship Advice Online

Most of us at one point or another in our lives will find ourselves in a difficult spot in our relationship. It can be tough to know which way to turn. There is help though, seeking out relationship advice online is one way to go.



For most people when faced with a crisis, of any kind, the first thing they do is talk things over with family or friends. And often, that's all it takes. Usually our problems aren't so in depth that it takes much more than a shoulder to cry on and a little tlc.



Sometimes, however, our problems go much deeper and not only do we need good advice, we need good un-biased advice, and that is something you can not go to your family and friends for. They will have their opinion sure, but it won't be unbiased. More than likely they will take your side in most everything...even if you're the one who is wrong.



If you're trying to salvage a relationship, that is not what you need. You need an objective person to tell you the truth, even the things you may not want to really hear. The painful truths, often the ones we run away from, are usually just what we need to hear.



Hiring a professional counselor or therapist can be a good way to go too. But before you do, keep a few things in mind. Therapists are just like any other group of professionals, some are better than others.



You should be particularly careful when choosing a faith based counselor. Why? Because sometimes, not all the time, but sometimes they will encourage you to stay in your relationship at all costs. They may be more concerned with their own religious beliefs and their bias against getting a divorce than they are for your well being and happiness. And the really bad part is they may not even realize they are doing it.



Now, I want to be clear. Using a faith based counseling service isn't a bad idea, just remember that everyone has an opinion, even non faith based therapists will have their own opinions, just make sure whatever therapist you see isn't blinded by their own opinion to the detriment of helping you figure out the best course of action for you.



And, last but not least, you can always use the enormous resources of the internet to help with your relationship questions. You could find forums, chat rooms, blogs, etc on relationships and relationship advice.



As with any other type of counseling just make sure you take everything with a grain of salt. Using online resources can be easier for some people since many people have a hard time opening up about personal issues face to face.



It can sometimes be easier to 'spill your guts' anonymously online. That can be a huge benefit since total honesty will be necessary to make the necessary changes in your life and to help you in your relationship.



So, if you're facing issues in your relationship and you want to get help just remember that you don't have to rely only on the 'traditional' offline methods. There is plenty of very good relationship advice online that can help you sort out all of your relationship issues.

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Perfect Relationships - Is There Any Such Animal

Don't hold out for perfect relationships because you'll only be disappointed. So many people sabotage their chances at love because they place their loved one and/or their relationship on a pedestal.



Until you change your definition of what perfect is you are doomed to failure again and again. You will also cause yourself and anyone you enter into a relationship with, a lot of pain.



No one is perfect, but someone can be perfect for you. There is a difference. The sooner you can make that distinction the sooner you'll have a real shot at having a great, loving relationship.



To get a better idea of what someone who is perfect for you would like, I've compiled a list of some of the most commonly desired traits in a partner. Of course your ideas could be different but these traits are fairly common and they provide a good place to start in examining what you consider perfect.



1.Understanding:

People are comfortable with someone who 'gets' them. If you sing in the shower, like weird food combination's, or just like to act goofy sometimes, you'll want a partner who can play along with you.



Everyone has their own little quirks and your perfect partner will, at the minimum, accept those quirks without making fun of you and at best will have the same or similar quirks. You won't want someone who will roll their eyes or ridicule you whenever you do these things. They should love you, and accept you, just as you are.



2. Good self esteem:

One of the biggest problems I see in relationships is when one party is insecure. This insecurity is often hidden and it can come across as many other things. Very often someone who is overly sexual or overly aggressive is actually just trying to compensate for and cover up a very strong sense of insecurity.



As you get to know someone keep a close eye out for their actions, this will tell you a lot. For example, how do they react when something embarrassing happens? Do they get angry, defensive? Do they lash out at you, this should be a huge, huge, red flag. Or do they laugh and shrug and go along with it good naturedly. If they do the latter it probably means that they are a secure confidant person, and that is a trait you want to look for in a partner.



3. Outlook:

Do they share similar views on things that are important to you? You don't have to agree on everything. It's possible some relationships can thrive even if both parties are very different in many of their views; though it will only work if both parties are mature and secure and don't feel threatened that the other one doesn't agree with them on various issues.



For the most part though, it will work better if you and your potential partner have a common ground on the main issues, your core beliefs. If you value honesty and fidelity, for example, you won't be happy with someone who lies and cheats.



Believe it or not, it's actually pretty easy to find perfect relationships, or at least perfect for you. The problem is that people see what they want to see and not what is really there. I know it can be hard, especially in the beginning, but it's important for the long term health and happiness of the relationship that you take off the blinders and see your partner as they really are, not as you want them to be.

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Mistakes Men Make In Relationships Women Make Them Too

When reading articles or books on relationships, women tend to come out smelling of roses. Is that because they are better at being lovers? Or is it because more of these types of books are written by women?



Men and women make mistakes in relationships. We are human beings and that means that we often do not get everything completely right. We may not mean to hurt people but either from lack of thought or consideration we do.



When you are part of a couple, you need to have a little patience with your other half. They are not mind readers. They cannot be expected to know what to do or say if you don't give them a few hints. They have their own issues and may be preoccupied with something important. It doesn't mean that they don't love you anymore or find you less attractive.



On the other hand if your partner lies, cheats or fails to keep his/her word, this is a problem. This shows a lack of respect for you as a person and for your partnership. You need to make sure that they know that this is not acceptable behavior and you will not tolerate it.



Women can often be insecure and lack confidence. As can men. These issues while affecting the individual also affect the couple. It is not your partners' role to make you have more confidence. Sure they should believe in you and show you how they feel but at the end of the day, you and only you can build up your self worth.



Try surprising your partner – buy her flowers when it isn't a special occasion. Cook him a meal because you want to not for any other reason. Spontaneous gestures of affection go a long way to building a harmonious household.



For the men out there, did you know that if you do more housework you generally get more sex? This is the result of a recent study. Why not try the theory and see if it proves true. Even if it doesn't get you the desired outcome, it is sure to earn you some extra brownie points.



Strengthen your relationship by having plenty of intimate contact. It releases a bonding hormone called oxytocin helping you to stay together and weather the storms that all couples face.



Don't let stereotypes ruin your relationship. Your wife may hate shopping and you may remember every birthday or special occasion. Just because the books say men are useless at remembering dates and women love to burn holes in credit cards doesn't mean it applies to you and your other half.



Remember all the reasons why you got together in the first place. Her smile, his ability to make you laugh. Remembering the fun times and the initial spark will help you to deepen the existing bonds between you. Shared memories, mutual trust and respect and having fun together are all ingredients of a great relationship. Women will agree with that, I'm sure of it!

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Married Relationship Keeping It Strong And Healthy

If you're married, or contemplating marriage, and you want to know the best ways to keep a married relationship strong, healthy, and happy, I have some ideas for you.



For one thing, as in many things these days, we all have a tendency of making things much harder than they really need to be. Most people are very kind, loving, and patient to their partner...when they first start dating. Unfortunately much of that seems to wear off over time. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why that happens?



I'm not completely sure but I know if we go into our relationships with open eyes and are aware of that potential, and fight against it happening, we have a better chance of not falling into that trap.



So many of the things that occur to us that have a negative impact on our lives and relationships tend to happen by default. They just happen and we're not paying attention. If we just paid attention and nipped these negative traits in the bud before they really got a foot hold in our relationship we could probably save it from happening in the first place.



Another extremely important thing to remember is to always have fun with your spouse. A good friend of mine, who is now divorced, was married to a man who loved to play. He played many sports such as softball, golf, bowling, etc. The problem was he never wanted to do any of those fun activities with his wife. He only wanted to do them with his friends. Why? The wife told me that after going to counseling the counselor suggested that he didn't want to do the activities with her because he was very insecure and he was afraid she might beat him, or at least be competitive, which he couldn't handle.



The end result was that her and her husband didn't have a strong loving bond. He didn't spend fun times with her only the mundane daily task times. That eventually led to the dissolution of their marriage.



If you want to keep your relationship strong it's very important that the two of you share more than the mundane, daily household chores. You need to share laughs, fun loving easy going times together too. If you're the ultra competitive type than you may want to stay away from playing games together but that still leaves a lot you can do, you can go to movies, concerts, etc.



Another potential problem in your marriage can come from having children. Now don't get me wrong, children are a blessing. But if you enter into parenthood with some fairy tale image of what it will be like you could be in trouble. It's very important for you and your partner to discuss, honestly, your outlook on raising children...before you have them.



If the two of you aren't on the same page, and many couples aren't, than it will create a lot of stress in your relationship. The best way to overcome that is to make sure even before you have children that the two of you can talk over any problem and reach a compromise. That skill will serve you well when you become parents.



No couple is going to agree on everything but if you and your partner have developed good communication skills prior to having children and are able to talk things out and come to some middle ground, that will go a long way in preventing a lot of squabbles when you become parents.



It's really not that hard to have a wonderfully fulfilling married relationship just remember that your partner is a trusted friend and talk to them, not at them...and have some fun every now and then!

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Marriage Infidelity Tips To Help You Save Your Marriage Before And After

Marriage infidelity is often the biggest reason that marriages end. Truth is, there have probably been problems in the marriage long before an affair occurred, but often the affair can turn out to be the breaking point. The key then is to deal with problems within the marriage as they arise and not leave them to the point where an affair happens.



To avoid marriage infidelity make sure that you and your spouse deal with any situation that is causing ructions within the marriage. The worst possible thing that many couples do is to ignore what is staring them in the face. Hiding from your problems will only make them fester and grow, get in there and tackle what is wrong head on!



Because the truth is that the affair is usually a symptom of marital problems. If there was emotional distance between you and your spouse, then within that distance there is the chance for an affair to begin. Sit down with your spouse and discuss how you feel. If you genuinely feel that your marriage is not how it should be then you have to be upfront and honest.



If you believe that you need to spend more time with your spouse then say so. Schedules need to be looked at and plans need to be made for when the two of you can spend some quality time together. Spending time together is a classic way to defeat distance in a relationship.



Another classic reason for marriage infidelity is money! Financial problems are without a doubt common reasons that people look for what they need outside of marriage. If you are struggling under the weight of trying to make ends meet financially, of coping with debt, or you're worried about your job security, then again you have to talk to your spouse. Trying to cope with this on your own will only make things more difficult. Looking outside your marriage for comfort from a third person will only hurt your marriage.



If you've got to a point where marriage infidelity is already a reality and you want to save your marriage, then you will then have to put out some fires and put them up pretty quickly. First of all end the relationship with the third person. Make sure that your spouse knows that you have ended it. Apologize for your mistake and explain to your spouse why you think you made the mistake. Any reasonable person can, IN TIME, forgive. What will erode forgiveness over time is lie after lie and betrayal after betrayal. So clearly and honestly explain your mistake, detail to your spouse what you are doing to prevent making that mistake again and live up to your promise!

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How To Get Over Someone You Love And Move On With Your Life

Are you wondering how to get over someone you love? Are you at the point where you're starting to believe that you will feel this heartache forever? Well the heartache will probably not disappear overnight, but equally, it won't last forever.



Here are some tips to help you move on.



1) Still in contact with your ex? Then the the truth is, to understand how to get over someone you love starts by you breaking all contact with them. There is no point in still talking to your ex on the phone or seeing them socially if you're trying to get over them and you're still in love with them. All you're doing is making the pain you're in last longer and go deep. So break contact.



2) Get out and about and meet new people. The last thing that you want to do is to spend your days and nights sitting home alone, brooding and thinking about your ex. If you're out and about with friends then you can distract yourself and occupy your mind with other things. Yes you probably still have to go home alone, but it means you're not spending hours on your own when you're at your most vulnerable.



3) Be good to yourself. No doubt mistakes were made by both you and your ex, so don't spend your time blaming yourself for what you did wrong. That's not to say you shouldn't accept responsibility for your own mistakes, but learn from what has happened and take what you have learnt into the future.



Understanding how to get over someone you love depends on you coming to terms with where your life now is. If you're not happy with yourself, then you will have a hard time leaving your past relationship behind you.



Think about the direction you want your life to go in. Are you headed the right way or are you stuck or moving in the exact opposite direction?



Do you need to make a different career choice to fulfill your goals? Is there more studying to be done? Perhaps you need a different group of friends to socialize with? Maybe dropping some pounds and getting fit is what you need? Whatever new path you need to take to move you forward in life, then you need to do it because a move like this is often the answer to the question “how to get over someone you love!”



What's also worth remembering and will help you, is to accept that just because you love someone, it doesn't necessarily mean you have to be with them. If that person is not right for you then moving on, for yourself, is the best thing you can do.

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Factors That Can Affect A Relationship Depression Is One Of The Worst

There are a number of things that can go wrong between couples. Of all the factors that can affect a relationship, depression is one of the worst. Why? It can be extremely difficult to treat and when the person is feeling depressed, their mood can affect the whole family.



Depression is a horrible illness not least as sufferers often suffer in silence. They do not realize that there is plenty of help available. With the right support, counseling and sometimes medication, you can beat this illness and become your old self again. But first you have to admit there is a problem.



People with depression are not just sad but feel extremely low. They often struggle to get through the day never mind deal with other people and their emotions. They can feel unloved but only unworthy of being loved. They may want to sleep all day but possibly not be able to sleep at all.



It is very difficult to watch someone you love battle this illness. You can feel completely helpless and perhaps even a little to blame. You may want to shake your partner and tell them to snap out of it. Your relationship will suffer as they won't be capable of showing affection very often and will probably be uncommunicative and miserable a lot of the time.



So what can you do?



The main thing is to try to support your partner at their time of need. Get them medical help. Don't try to brush everything under the carpet. Most cases of depression do not get better on their own without medical intervention. You may not need tablets. Your doctor will be able to recommend a counselor who can assist you to deal with this illness.



Take some time out for yourself as this illness can be contagious. Being around someone who is constantly crying or emotional is challenging for anyone and your mood may suffer. You need to take some time away from the situation in order to preserve your good humor and ability to deal with the situation. Get support for yourself. There are groups and charities available for partners of depressed people where you can express your thoughts, anger or frustration to people who understand and are non judgmental.



Educate yourself on the type of illness your partner has. The more you know about it the more you may be able to help. But do not fall into the trap of telling them how they should be feeling as only they can know that. While they are ill, try to help out more around the house



Try to remain positive. Most episodes last a relatively short period of time and one attack does not mean that it will come back or continue for the rest of your partner's life. Love your partner unconditionally. They are ill and underneath they are the same person you fell in love with. Value your relationship, depression doesn't always last and you will both return to normal one day.

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Emotional Infidelity Is There Really Such A Thing

Are you wondering about emotional infidelity, what it is and is it ok if you're in a relationship? Well you're not alone. Many people think about infidelity only on one level: the physical. In fact it's true to say, that many people don't even believe there's such a thing as emotional infidelity. Well they're wrong!



First of all let's define “emotional infidelity!” This classically occurs when someone in a committed relationship/marriage forms an emotional attachment with a third person outside of the relationship. This may seem trivial to begin with but it can escalate and become something else – in short, become physical.



So, if you've formed a friendship that you cannot tell your spouse/partner about then you should seriously ask yourself why? To be perfectly honest, you should not have a relationship/friendship with anyone that you cannot openly and honestly discuss with your partner. The minute your partner is shut out of any part of your life there is a potential for distance. With distance comes real and potential problems to your relationship.



This is not to say that you have to tell your spouse/partner about every single part of your day. The distinction here is that if you are deliberately hiding a friendship with a third person, and hiding the nature of that friendship, from your spouse/partner!



What you should also consider, when it comes to emotional infidelity, is how your partner would feel if they ever found out? Perhaps you are sharing intimate details of your life with your partner with your secret friend? How would your partner feel about that? Knowing that any problems the two of you are having are being openly discussed by you with someone outside of your relationship? Not only that, someone who could quickly become a destructive element within your relationship?



Emotional infidelity, might seem like a little bit of harmless fun when you first set out but it can quickly and dangerously escalate into something that can seriously threaten your relationship. You will find that your partner will have picked up on the fact that you're even more distant than usual and this is because you are sharing with someone else and pretty soon you're thinking about that someone else more and more.



Once this happens it can often be a short step towards a full on physical relationship and that's why any emotional attachment that your partner does not know about it so dangerous.



If there is a problem in your relationship then it is best sorted out between you and your partner and if need be with professional outside help, or perhaps even with trusted friends.



Make no mistake emotional infidelity is as dangerous as physical infidelity.

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Does My Ex Still Love Me Or Am I Kidding Myself

Have you asked a good friend “does my ex still love me?” Well this really is one of those classic questions that people ask when they haven't moved on from a relationship that is over. Chances are your friend has no answer for you that will help you and so you're still left wondering.



The truth is that a question like, “does my ex still love me?” can be a dangerous one to ask. This is because you might not get the answer you're looking for. As I've said, often times we will ask a question like that when we're still hung up on our exes and we're looking for reassurance and an OK that it's alright for us to go on and rescue the relationship. If this is what you're doing, make sure you're clear in your own mind that you could be setting yourself up for a heavy fall if your ex doesn't still love you.



With that said, there is a real truth in the fact that sometimes relationships do need space and air in order for them to resume and continue. People say the most hurtful and painful things to each other when they're arguing! And in temper they end up walking out and shouting “it's over!” more times than it actually is.



What can follow in a situation like this is weeks and months of couples refusing to talk to each other and refusing to see each other, but deep down inside they're hurting with regret and longing that they've parted. If this is your situation then the answer to your question, “does my ex still love me?” is more than likely “Yes!”



In a stiutation like this, there is probably still a chance that the couple can still find a way back together if just one of them takes that initial step and asks to meet up to talk.



Now the only way to know one way or the other if this is your stiutation or if you're deluding yourself, is not to ask a friend, but to make contact with your ex and ask your ex. Often times this simple step is not taken because one or both of those involved don't want to lose face and make the first move. Well rather than sitting there wondering for days, weeks or more, make that first contact!



Arrange to meet somewhere neutral and after the initial pleasantries are over, work your question into the conversation. Be direct, be honest and get the answer from the only person who knows for sure. It really is the only way that you can stop yourself wasting time, longing and wondering what the real answer to your question “does my ex still love me?” really is!

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Discover How To Deal With A Break Up

Are you wondering how to deal with a break up? Perhaps you weren't ready for the relationship to end but your spouse was and they ended the relationship? If that's the case, then there are two directions you can take: you can refuse to accept the relationship is really over or you can find a way to move on and get on with your life.



If you are convinced that the relationship is not over, that your ex has, in effect, made a mistake in ending the relationship, then you will no doubt be hellbent on rekindling the relationship. It could be that you are deluding yourself and that you are setting yourself up for an even bigger fall, so please bear this in mind. However, if you are sure in your mind that the relationship is not over and you want to find a way to heal the breakup then here are some steps that will help you.



First of all agree to the breakup! Let your ex go with as little drama and fuss as possible. When your ex sees that you're handling the end of your relationship with such maturity, they will be very impressed.



Don't make any contact with your ex once they have left. The last thing you want to do is to be constantly calling your ex and begging and pleading with them to take you back. To continue your appearance of maturity, get on with your life and leave your ex to get on with theirs.



How to deal with a break up means that you appear detached, mature and confident. So, in the weeks and months after the breakup make sure that you spend time looking after yourself emotionally and physically. In that way, when the time is right for you to contact your ex, you are in great shape emotionally and physically.



If, on the other hand, you are ready to move on with your life and you're asking how to deal with a break up from that point of view, then what you should be looking at doing is keeping yourself occupied.



The worst thing that you can do when you're dealing with a breakup is to spend hours and hours on your own. This will only leave you time to brood, reminisce and leave you feeling connected to your ex. So find your friends and socialize with your friends.



If there is something in your life that you've always wanted to do but never had the time or the inclination to do it before, then now is time to get out and do it. This could be anything from taking a trip abroad, enrolling in a class? Or perhaps you have some weight to lose and some fitness to improve? Whatever it is that you need to do to keep your mind off your ex and how you are feeling, then you need to do it.



Whatever route you decide is right for you, you must always give yourself time to begin to understand how to deal with a break up, before you move forward!

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Can You Trust Relationship Advice Online

Look up any problem you may be having and you will find plenty of relationship advice online. But how do you know whether you can trust it or not?



I guess the answer to that question is does it make sense to you? If the person giving the advice has opinions and thoughts that are the opposite of what you personally believe in then you are not going to have much faith in them.



However, if someone strikes a chord with you, you will probably listen to them. Personally I believe that it is important that the relationship advice online is provided by someone who has helped other couples already. How will you know if that has happened? You should see plenty of testimonials from happy clients or readers of the website. If twenty couples have benefited from the advice they received, it can't all be bad right?



Relationships are by their nature very personal things. Sure there are some common themes in successful ones. Mutual respect, trust, caring, sexual attraction and love are just a few of them. You cannot expect a partnership to survive without these. It would be the same as expecting a plant to live without sunshine and water.



If you and your other half are having problems, you need to address the issues and soon. You cannot just ignore them as they tend to grow rapidly and can eventually cause you to split up. You have the option of going for counseling either separately or together but sometimes people do not want to sit opposite a stranger for fear they will judge them. If you feel like this, the anonymity of contacting someone online will be very attractive to you.



So how do you keep the relationship healthy so you can minimise your chances of needing relationship advice online or otherwise? You need to treat each other with care. You are both individual human beings with your own needs, wants and desires. Sometimes it can be easy to take each other for granted. Your partner may start feeling left out as you go about saving the world and its problems. Or you may be very busy at work and too tired to make time for them when you do get home.



Try arranging a date night at least once a week for you two to share some fun and conversation. You must set up some rules before hand for example, you have to behave like you did when you were dating i.e. no talk of the kids, the row you had last week or your mother in law. You should dress up and make an effort just as you would on a date. And don't put pressure on each other to end up in the bedroom. You should make more of an effort in the bedroom department too but it is only one part of your overall partnership.



If you are having problems, why not try relationship advice online. After all you have more to gain than you can lose!

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Before Relationship Break Up Hits Make Sure That You Do Everything You Can To Save Your Relationship

Fair to say you're reading this because you can see a break up coming and you're wondering what you can do before relationship break up actually comes your way. Well the good news is that there are steps you can take to save your relationship if that's really what you want to do.



First of all consider what you think might be wrong. What has caused you to think a break up is on the cards? Do you suspect your partner of cheating? Do you feel an emotional distance between you and your partner? Or have you been arguing a lot more than you ever have before and you really don't know why?



Finding the answers to these questions, or which ever questions fit your particular situation, is key. Once you start asking the right questions, then you have a really strong chance of saving your relationship before relationship break up hits.



So, are you making real quality time for your relationship? Because without a doubt, this is often the number one reason that couples separate and relationships end. If you do not make time for your relationship an emotional distance distance will appear between you and your partner and before you know it, that space which you should have filled, will now be filled by someone else or something else.



Before relationship break up happens, make sure that you are not falling into the trap of finding fault in everything that your partner does. This is a classic sign of dissatisfaction with yourself. Whatever you feel you are failing at: career, finances, emotional relationships and even how you feel about yourself, this could lead you to take out your dissatisfaction with yourself on your other half. If there is something that is wrong in your life, sort it out.



If you have genuine reasons to be upset with your partner, then make sure you strike a balance between concern and criticism. No one likes to be told what they're doing wrong 24/7! Don't focus on the minor wrongs, that way when there is something really important that you find unacceptable, then you can bring it up safe in the knowledge that it's not just a long line of what you consider to be your partner's wrongs!



Above all, before relationship breakup really hits, make sure that you sit down with your partner and talk openly about your fears and concerns. Whatever you do don't avoid and don't pretend everything is all right. You never know, you've noticed that all is not well, perhaps your partner has also noticed too.

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A Relationship After Cheating - Is It Even Possible

If you are in a relationship where your partner has cheated you may be wondering if a relationship after cheating is possible. There really is no set answer to this question. There are many factors that will come into play.



Here are a few of the questions you need to ask yourself as you try to decide what is the best option for you, your partner, and your relationship:



1. Do you want to stay in the relationship?

This is often the most obvious, and the most difficult, question to answer. You know yourself, and your partner and how you truly feel. Rebuilding a relationship after infidelity will take a lot of time, a lot of patience, a lot of trust, and most of all, a lot of love.



If you don't feel like you can honestly bring those traits to the table you will probably not be able to stick with it long enough to heal the wounds. It might be best to just call it quits.



2. One consideration is the long term viability of the relationship in general:

While no one has the right to cheat, if your partner has always been honest and faithful but just had a moment of weakness, particularly if the relationship was in a bad place at the time, you might be able to move on with the relationship.



Of course that would depend on the reason the relationship was in a bad place to begin with. If it was just a 'normal' rough patch than that's one thing, but if the relationship is over, but neither of you really wants to admit it, that is another thing.



Figuring all this out will be difficult, especially when you are dealing with the pain of betrayal, but it is important to try to take a step back to see things more clearly.



Seeing things more clearly can be helped along by enlisting the help of a counselor or therapist, an objective third party that can help guide you through these questions and come up with honest answers.



3. It will take time:

No one should expect to fix a broken relationship in a few weeks, or even a few months. Building trust the second time, after someone has already betrayed you , is even harder than building it the first time.



You have to allow yourself time to get some clarity so you can decide what you want to do. Oftentimes the cheating partner will try to rush things. They do this for two main reasons, one, they feel guilty and the sooner you are 'back to normal' the sooner some of that guilt will fade, and two, they know that if you are able to grieve for a time and get clarity it's highly likely you'll decide to end the relationship and they may not want that, despite the fact that they cheated.



So, if your partner has cheated and you want to decide if a relationship after cheating is still possible, just consider some of these points. Going through infidelity in a relationship can be one of the most painful and difficult things you will ever go through. But you will get through it, and it's important to try to make the best decisions you can so that you will be able to find happiness, with or without your partner, in the future.

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Affair Relationships Be Clear On What Youre Doing Before You Start An Affair

When a marriage hits the rocks, one of the easiest situations to find yourself in is having an affair! Relationships with people outside your marriage or long term relationship are often more appealing than staying faithful to spouses and partners. Affairs are new, exciting and a reminder that we are still vital and desired people. These are the compelling reasons why so many people find themselves having an affair. The downside of an affair only ever faced when things get out of hand.



If you are considering an affair, relationships are about to become difficult for you. Whether that relationship be your long-term one or for that matter, the affair you're embarking on. You might think that your long-term relationship is bad now but just wait until your partner/spouse discovers you've been cheating on them.



Your spouse will feel betrayed, angry and devastated. Yes, the affair will devastate your marriage. Instead of turning to someone outside your relationship remember the promises you made. No marriage or relationship is without problems, the trick is to work at remaining focused and committed when these problems hit. So turn to your spouse or your partner instead of some seemingly appealing outsider.



Explain clearly to your spouse how you feel. Just because you are feeling this way about your relationship/marriage, it doesn't mean it's the same for your spouse/partner. They may very well have no idea you feel the relationship is in trouble, the only way you will know for sure is if you talk to them.



It is crucial that you both take the time to listen to each other. Avoid judging and criticizing each other, because this will not make either of you feel you can be open and honest about your feelings. If your spouse feels they are going to be mocked or criticized, then they will clam up. Equally so will you.



If you have already embarked upon an affair, then you need to weigh up what you want. Perhaps the marriage is well and truly over? You will only know this if you explore with honesty and sincerity how you feel. There is no good for either you or your partner in staying in a marriage/relationship that is just not working. If the relationship/marriage is toxic then the answer is to end it and with as little harm as possible.



Affair? Relationships? They both take time and effort and opting for an affair is not necessarily the easiest option youcould take. Whatever you're doing, and whoever you're doing it with, there at least three sets of feelings involved. Your lover might be casual about what they're doing in the beginning, but attachments are easily and quickly formed and before you know it, your lover could be putting all kinds of demands around what they want from you.



Think long and hard about the problems in your marriage/relationship. Is your relationship worth fighting for? If it is then you must do everything you can to avoid anaffair! Relationships can be greatly rewarding and an affaircan be deeply devastating.

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In life we get what we ask for. Everything starts with a thought. A thought is an energy. Energy wants to manifest itself. A lot of thoughts in the same direction will, that’s for sure, manifest in the real world. This is the process of creation. Start thinking positive thoughts. Think only thoughts you wish to see happen in real life. Think only what you want to become true.





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power, mind, thoughts, thinking process, positive mindset, creation, realisation, success





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In life we get what we ask for.



Now you surely say that it isn’t true. You say you ask for freedom and happiness and all you got was feeling imprisoned and bad.



Let’s have a closer look to how creation works and how our subconscious mind works. Because it’s the same.



Everything that exists is created in someone’s mind. Everything starts with a thought. A thought is an energy. Energy wants to manifest itself. A lot of thoughts in the same direction will, that’s for sure, manifest in the real world.



This is the process of creation.

We are created by the same process. We use this process of creation all the time,

without knowing it.



When we are not conscious, then we are like most people and use this power to create a negative life. We have negative thoughts and get negative results.

Once we learn how to think positive thoughts, we will get positive results in our life.



How come? Our subconscious mind is like the earth. It does not interfere with what we sow. Earth does not say :”Nja I have enough of these carottes, it’s every time the same thing, I will make potatoes of it!” Earth does not say : “Bah I don’t like red flowers, I will turn the red into blue for these roses!” Earth does not interfere. Earth is patient, works in silence and gives us exactly what we put in it. And we KNOW that! We know we will get exactly what we put in the earth. When we put yellow flowers in it, we don’t expect them to be red when they blossom. When we sow roses in the garden we don’t expect onions to come out in spring!



And yet that’s how we react in real life. We sow onions and expect roses. We sow negative thoughts in our mind (onions) and expect good things (roses) to come out! We fool ourselves! And we blame others. We look for who can possibly be the fault of that (usually we blame the parents or the husband/wife for what goes wrong in our life). And then we cry and say we don’t have any luck in our lives. We look at the neighbour and think he’s lucky because he has roses in his garden, and we wonder what we did to the world to deserve only onions in our garden!



When the mainstream of your thoughts is negative, let’s say for 85 %, than the outcome will be negative for 85%. Your thoughts fall into your subconscious mind, which executes exactly what you put in it. It is like the earth. It is like a computer. When you type in your computer : “I am stupid, I am fat, I am ugly, nobody loves me”, are you angry with your printer when the paper comes out that says “I am stupid, I am fat, I am ugly, nobody loves me”? Do you throw a shoe at your computer and do you yell at him that he is the fault of everything that’s going wrong? No, because you know you put that information in it and your computer does not interfere. The output matches exactly the input.



So works our subconscious mind. If you don’t like the output, change the input. You get exactly what you ask for = what you think of the whole day. Don’t be angry with your life. You are not angry with the onions, are you? You are not angry with your computer, are you? Instead of being angry, learn how it works and learn to get positive results in your life. Start thinking positive thoughts. Think only thoughts you wish to see happen in real life. Think only what you want to become true. And wait for a while, be patient. One day you will harvest what you sew, like you know earth will give you back what you put in it. It is never lost. Just wait and see.

Why is The Law of Attraction so Hard to Apply?

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The lower your frequency the harder it is for you to actually attract what you want. The law of attraction will simply keep you at the same level where you presently are. There are many ancient practices that can help in shifting a persons over all frequency to astonishingly higher levels very easy and in a matter of minutes.





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law of attraction, attraction, manifesting, manifest





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Very often people ask, “Why is the law of attraction so hard to apply to my life?”

Perhaps you are one of the many people who feel a bit frustrated by the results you are getting.



Most people believe that attraction begins and ends with negative or positive thoughts. While your thoughts do matter there is more to the attraction process and much more to understand about the nature of thought.



You see negative and positive thoughts do have a charge. A negative thought has a much weaker charge than a higher more positive thought.



Success with the law of attraction depends on you having higher thoughts not simple because they affirm what you want to attract but because the higher your over all thought frequency the higher your attraction.



For most people it is quite hard to elevate their thought vibration to a higher more powerful frequency. It’s not as easy as simply saying, “Today, I am going to think positive thoughts.” After many years of thinking in a negative way a persons over all frequency is quite low and it will take a little extra to change that over all frequency.



The lower your frequency the harder it is for you to actually attract what you want. The law of attraction will simply keep you at the same level where you presently are. One or two positive thoughts will not automatically make you a magnet for attracting what you want.



There are many ancient practices that can help in shifting a persons over all frequency to astonishingly higher levels very easy and in a matter of minutes. Often we turn away from teachings that are foreign to us but the reality is, if you want to change your life you must be willing to do things differently from the way you have always done it.



You must be willing to be open in order to maximize your understanding of the law of attraction and your ability to manifest what you want.



What would you be willing to do to finally attract what you want easily?

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Spiral of Manifestation

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A powerful technique to help you utilize your power of attraction and intention.





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manifestation,creativity,inspiration,healing,intention,spirituality,power,magic





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The "Spiral of Manifestation" is a powerful, energy-based technique that assists you in getting "unstuck". It is a wonderful tool that you can access at any time and in any circumstance.



The Law of Attraction dictates that when energy goes out, it comes back in the same form. This is not a new theory, just one that has not been fully understood or mastered. Our thoughts and energetic patterns create our reality. Yet, are we fully aware of what we are thinking and what type of energy we are putting out? On a surface level you may "think" you are doing one thing- but on another, more powerful level- something else is actually going on. This is what creates distortions in our energy fields and causes our own power of manifestation to be stagnant. To illustrate this theory, let’s look at a couple of examples.



You want to attract a romantic partner into your life. This is a very deep desire and something that you want with all of your heart. So, you set out to accomplish this goal using spiritual principles. You use affirmations, write out a list of what you desire in a partner, light some candles and pray. On the "surface" level this seems as if it is a very positive exercise. But, for a moment- let's look at what could be happening behind the scene- on a deeper level in your energy field. What are your "true" thoughts? Why hasn't the relationship manifested? What is the hold up?

The reality is at the current moment you do not have a relationship in your life. You are lonely. When you roll over at night- there is nobody there to hold you. You go out and see all these happy couples walking around and it causes you to feel sad and envious.



You create a "battle" or distortion of energy. You keep saying and trying to think one thing- yet, another reality is showing up in your life. If you find this happening- just understand that you have some thought forms and energetic patterns that are stuck. This is creating "neutrality".



The first thing to do in this case is to be realistic. There are over 6 billion people currently living on the planet! There is someone there for you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself that only adds to the distortion. Be happy for other people that they have found an appropriate mate for themselves. You just have not met the right person yet. Period.



Use the "spiral of manifestation" to dissolve all the blocks in your energy field. When you start to feel the sad feelings come over you- visualize a beautiful spiral of energy. It can be any color or size you desire. I see it as a tornado shaped energy field. I like to see it in a luminous silver or white color because that represents purity. Just allow it to dissolve the sadness. Do not attempt to direct the energy in any way. Just allow the experience. Let the spiral cleanse and purify whatever feelings come up. Let your thoughts flow. The Creative Power of the Universe does not need your assistance. Trust in your own higher self and the unlimited power of creation to take you through this process. Let go. The Creator knows what you want and what you need. You must trust that. Get out of your own way.



Another example of this theory is that of Prosperity. You, like everyone else, wants great things. You want to be able to pay your bills and have lots of extra money left over to buy what you want. You want to provide for your family now and in the future. So, this is the goal- to increase our prosperity.

You begin doing affirmations, thinking positive and visualizing what you desire to happen. After about a week of affirmations and positive thinking- guess what? You are still broke! You just got paid and it is gone! But, you keep on saying your affirmations. The battle begins. What we are doing is not working. Why? It is not working because there is an energetic conflict. We get angry, "I keep saying all these affirmations and thinking positive thoughts and I still do not have any money". Are you really thinking positive thoughts? What is going on in your mind? Do you believe what you are saying? The anger takes us out of the natural flow.



First, be realistic! There is unlimited abundance everywhere! There is no lack! The lack resides in your mental programming. Change how you see things. When you find yourself overcome with fear about not being able to pay your bills and the money you need is just not there- call the "spiral of manifestation". See it enter your energy field- cleansing away all distortion and un-truths. Soon you will find many wonderful ideas on how you can manifest prosperity. Creativity will flow and new and exciting opportunities will present themselves to you.



Open yourself up to the Unlimited Creative Power of the Universe. Remember, there is no lack or limitation of any kind. That applies for personal relationships, money, health etc. Being in a “stuck” space uses a great deal of energy- it blocks your ability to create and causes fatigue. Once your energy field is free of blocks and distortions- you will feel more energized and creative. Use the "spiral of manifestation" to clear your mind and energy so you can receive the unlimited blessings that are available to you.



Paula Picard is a Professional Psychic and Spiritual teacher who utilizes her intuition and 20 years of experience to assist you in co-creating the life you want. Paula believes that within you is the power to manifest your desires. To learn more about Paula Picard and her Powerful work www.paulapicard.com or you can contact her at pmpicard@charter.net

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Spice Up Your Sex Life With Pheromone

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Not a lot of people are familiar with Pheromone, which is quite unfortunate because its ability to drastically improve our sex life is something that can only be described as revolutionary. Join me in my initial brushes with Pheromone, and how I discovered its wondrous and invigorating effects.





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You know, I never believed in aphrodisiacs.



Given the fact that I’ve been married for a good number of years now, and no amount of chocolates and oysters and what-have-you’s managed to convince my wife to try, uhm, something new when it comes to sexual explorations… you’d know where I’m coming from.



Hence, I always believed that aphrodisiacs were urban myths concocted by people who are either hopelessly optimistic or downright delusional. In the real world – my real world, at least – aphrodisiacs are empty boxes of false promises.



But boy, was I wrong!



Long have I heard about Pheromones and their rather amazing effects on human sexual relations, but I always grouped them with aphrodisiacs, that is, works of fiction rather than tales of facts. This, despite the growing popularity of Pheromones among my network of friends. Though some of them often mispronounce and misspell it as “Phermones,” they nonetheless have an idea on what it’s about.



Pheromone is a chemical that is produced by animals to convey certain primal messages that elicit an equally primal response. Of course, there is nothing more primal than sex. Pheromone was first observed in female silk worms which secreted Pheromones to attract the males of their specie come mating time. It has been well documented in many insects since then, and in due time, scientists have observed the same in mammals.



Pheromones serve as sexual attractants. They have a distinct smell that appeals to the most basic of instincts, particularly those of the opposite sex within the same specie.



It was only in 1986 when a group of Philadelphia scientists discovered the presence of Pheromones in humans. Women produce them, and this makes men approach them with much fervor and longing. Men produce them as well, and this results in building a connection with the females of our specie.



The problem is, Pheromone production varies from subject to subject. While some may possess an abundance of this, well, hormone of desire, others seem to suffer from a shortage of the same.



The solution?



Human Pheromone has been cultivated and perfectly integrated with oil, cologne and perfume. Since Pheromone appeals to the sense of smell, what better way to carry it than through a variety of scents?



Billy Bob, a college buddy of mine, was the first one who ordered those simply packaged bottles of Pheromone (which he still insists to this very date should be spelt as “Phermone”) perfume.



Within a week after his initial purchase, Billy Bob excitedly told us about his findings.



“It freakin’ worked!” I remember him screaming. “My wife’s not freakin’ frigid after all!” he added, still with the same enlivened delight.



I was still hesitant about Pheromone perfume, Pheromone cologne, Pheromone oil and the likes at that time, but another buddy of ours, Paul, followed Billy Bob’s cue and took the plunge. Now, Paul is quite a character. He’s not afraid to try anything. Being that he’s gay, he wanted to find out if female Pheromone would make him more attractive to guys.



Guess what?



He tried it out during his vacation in Phuket, Thailand, and he claimed that he had the time of his life. “If you know what I mean,” he coyly added.



With two of my friends claiming the exact, same thing, I shared this knowledge to my wife. To my surprise, she knew more about it than I did. Turns out that her cousin Beth, who has long endured the fear of a possible divorce, has been hailing Pheromone as the savior of her marriage. According to Beth, her husband became more adventurously amorous ever since she started wearing Pheromone perfume.



I have read about the love potion of Eros in mythological stories. I have read about love potions in Wiccan lore. I have seen so many movies from my youth involving love potions of every kind. I have always associated love potions with fiction. And I was never going to accept such as a fact… not in its original form in myths of yore, and not in what seems to be its present incarnation in Pheromone perfumes, colognes oils and the likes.



But when my wife started wearing it….



Well, suffice to say, no amount of testimonials would appease anyone’s doubts when it comes to something as seemingly magical alternative like Pheromone, or Phermone as many people call it.



But you’re missing out on some grand things if you don’t want to give it a try, I could tell you that much.



My recommendation: try it. Most establishments offering this sexual attractant offer a money back guarantee, after all. You have nothing to lose…



…and a whole new world of pleasure to gain.



Fair gamble, isn’t it?



For me, though? Who needs Viagra when my wife’s Pheromones are inviting me to come get some!

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